Privacy in relationships is very important for your own mental well being. You are an adult and there are some boundaries that must be set with each person in your life. Be it your sibling, parents, relatives, friends, boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse and in-laws, etc. How to draw them? Here are some tips on drawing those privacy boundary lines with your partner. You first need to know what your privacy boundaries include.
What pushes your buttons, what suffocates you. Make a list, sit and explain it to your partner on where you want the line to be drawn. Now that you have drawn your boundaries or tried to explain it, you have to be a little accommodating as well in a relationship. This is where the “what is acceptable” steps in. If there is a list of unacceptable then draw that out as well. It includes checking your phone, reading your emails or text etc. Tell the “off-limits”, but be calm and explain it to the person how it is suffocating you or pushing you away.
No hinting
Be direct, give no room for miscommunication. Do not drop hints and just be direct. He or she may not have even realised that your privacy boundary is being overstepped until and unless you say it out loud. Never presume that the other will understand automatically.
Ask your partner to do the same
Once you have drawn your own boundaries and limitations, ask him/her to draw their own. It is healthy and shows you respect the other person as well. They can be different as well so you need to accept that too.
Physical boundaries
Your boundaries could be physical as well! If you do not like being touched somewhere then draw the line. You don’t like leaving the bathroom door open then say it. You cannot be in the bathroom doing your own business while he/she does their own, then clear it all out. Instead of letting all that frustration brew in your head, it is best to communicate and as they say, communication is the key to all healthy relationships.
