“This is just me take it or leave it, I can’t stand nonsense I would deal so badly with you it won’t cross your mind to wrong me again! I would deal with you, you wait and see”
These are but a few of the words people say when they are angry. What is Anger? A strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or been unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened. There are few things we know triggers anger like anxiety, Shame, Pain, Fear, frustration, disappointment and so on.
Anger is like drinking deadly poison. A typical example of this is when you get mad at someone and the person apologizes and moves on and you still hold it in your heart. You bear grudges against the individual. You then get very emotional and angry upon seeing the person then your heart starts to beat so fast and we sometimes tend to frown or squeeze our face.
In this case, your emotions get wasted, your heart beats faster, and thereby increasing your blood pressure (bp) then eventually you spoil your face or looks with the squeezed face. We meet people sometimes in life who have a very heavy face or squeezed face. Most of the times, they may not be angry but it so happens that they have kept that face overtime so they become “squeezed faces” it’s difficult to tell the emotions of such people.
What role does anger play in friendships and relationships? Anger when not properly managed can destroy a beautiful relationship amongst friends and families. Sometimes amongst friends, there may be contentions here and there. People may step on each other’s toes; instead of communicating to the other to express our displeasure when we get angry, we react with emotions.
Most often, people cannot control their anger and behave wrongly and this spoils relationships. Anger when it is not properly managed breeds serious problems even amongst family.
You go into certain families and there are serious grudges because someone feels hurt and their anger transcends to Generations after them. Anger is deadly, At certain times, relationships or friendships have been lost to the Spirit of anger and that is a spirit we must deal with. We must note that the Bible says “anger lies in the bosom of a fool “(Ecclesiastes 7:9)
We must have this at the back of our minds and watch it when we get angry. Anger has led to a lot of divorces in the world today, simply because partners get mad at each other for both trivial and serious issues. Most of these issues can easily be resolved but the Spirit of anger takes the better part of one of the parties or both.
Bible admonishes us not to let the “sunrise on the anger” (Ephesians 4:26 to 27) for we know in our anger we sin and even destroy things not just emotionally but physically and psychologically. Emotionally people break down, physically people can even destroy tables and things around them, while psychologically, people resent other and it affects the relationship.
Anger is a deadly spirit. Let us be aware. Others channel their anger into doing the right things. People get angry about how things are in their lives, and then in their anger, they challenge themselves to go far and to another level.
That kind of anger is good as it pushes people out of their comfort zones to progress in life. Instead of channelling our anger into destroying things around us and relationships we spent quality time and years growing, let us channel it into good Ventures. Let us be careful with anger and the things we say and do.
We must not let the five-letter word “ANGER” destroy a whole treasure called “RELATIONSHIP”. We are all humans who are striving for perfection. Let us learn to love and forgive people around us when we feel offended.
God doesn’t get that mad in our transgressions to destroy us. Let us be calm and pray for the Spirit of patience and endurance. Let us pray anger out! It’s not something we should be proud of as a character and say I am “I easily get angry”
May the Lord help us to become better persons in our relationships and all situations we find ourselves!
Let the Lord bless us! And let us learn to control our emotions. Written by: BenjaminFrehhope Mensah