Broken homes refer to divorced or separated families. Families that have parents divorced or separated are considered broken homes. Broken homes have become rampant in our world, the question is why? And who suffers? It’s sad to see a couple that once upon a time, loved each other deeply, becoming enemies and tearing each other apart.
Indeed, there is a thin line between love and hate. Most of the times, broken homes come about as a result of a misunderstanding, lack of communication, lack of seriousness, commitment, and trust among others. Most divorce cases today are as a result of cheating, irresponsibility, lack of the God factor.
To stay in marriages or relationships, it takes a lot of work. When homes are broken, children turn to suffer the most, they suffer psychological trauma. Of a truth, there is nothing as refreshing as living in your father’s house or with both parents. Living with both parents can never be compared to living with one or shuffling between the two. When children come from broken homes, it takes the grace of God for them to survive life.
When a kid shuffles between going to this parent for vacation, weekend and staying with another for a week, it brings discontinuity in their behaviour and their characters. Mother teaches or inculcates different morals, whiles father does another, and it becomes worse when even “steps” come in.
This is where you get stepmothers, maltreating their stepchildren, you get stepfathers also maltreating and abusing the kids, some get beaten, others verbally abused, others get raped and all. Children from broken homes end up having broken homes themselves sometime in life if God doesn’t intervene because mostly the picture of marriage is not painted well. They mostly get confused on the path of partnership.
Whereas I agree that some marriages are killing and if you happen to be in one that threatens your life, you must quickly move out to save yourself, and your children.
Impatience is one of the devilish factors tormenting homes, certain issues clearly can be resolved, if a little patience was exercised; but for ego and pride. Couples must learn to sort out their differences and not wait to get to a point of divorce, especially over trivial issues! Products or children from broken homes sometimes turn to become a liability. Children from homes with both parents, mostly get a certain kind of love.
Of course, with all these said, even though some homes have both parents under the same roof, yet living us flat mates. This also creates or paints negative pictures of marriage to the kids involved.
Good homes where love and peace exists, is the ultimate. We must note that no one marries their enemy, so why is it difficult to be with someone you so wished and possibly went through a lot to be with? Issues of the heart indeed are dicey.
Broken homes are killing our generation and also the future generation leading children into drug addictions and abuses.
Can we take a moment as couples or parents to ask certain questions, get the answers before leaving the marriage? Did we ever love partners? What got us all over them, what’s the spark? Is it something we can resolve? Have we exhausted all possible solutions? Is the divorce the only way out? How do we handle our kids when it’s all done? These questions and more must we ask ourselves when taking stands about our families.
Let’s try our best as couples and parents and make the best decisions not only in our interest but also in the interest of our kids and the community. Let us not let our pride and ego make our kids suffer when we can resolve certain differences. It’s just sad when you are in court, then seeing people who came to a consensus, got married and gave birth to these children out of love, fighting over their custody.
Have we stopped to think of how these children also feel? It’s sad when kids from broken home go to school, meet other kids talk about how mummy and daddy did something for them and your kid from broken home just talks about mummy or daddy. Sometimes, one party even becomes irresponsible and kids don’t even know them. How sad! this issue of broken home is endless and we cannot exhaust it.
But in all these, let us be mindful of the effects it will have on us. Are you going through a trying and want to give up? Do you want to throw in the towel? Marriage or relationship is not how you envisioned it? Run to God first, exhaust all possible avenues to settle your differences and don’t leave God out of it unless a life-threatening situation. Let’s endure and strive to make our homes work, make it peaceful and loving for our children’s sake and our sakes.
The Lord help us and heal the broken-hearted, give us peace in our homes and bless us. Enable us to run the race and finish with a VICTORIOUS CROWN.
Written by: © Benjamin Freshhope Mensah