Traditional priest Nana Kwaku Bonsam has shared guidance on marriage, intimacy, and self-care, encouraging couples to blend spiritual practices with practical efforts to maintain healthy relationships. During an appearance on Let’s Talk on Joy Prime, Tuesday, May 5, he emphasised the difference between authentic traditional healing and harmful practices, highlighting that true healing should be restorative. He explained that traditional healing involves the use of “herbs, leaves, and roots to help people come together,” and insisted its purpose should always be natural and beneficial.
Conversely, he denounced any practices he deemed harmful, making it clear he does not support such methods. “Traditional healing should restore and strengthen, not destroy,” he stressed. Kwaku Bonsam also highlighted physical appearance and self-care as important but often overlooked aspects of relationships. He noted that some women seek spiritual intervention to regain their partners’ attention, but he often advises them to focus on improving their presentation instead.
“It’s not about spiritual attraction—it’s the way she’s dressed: the new hairstyle, manicured nails, and a sexy outfit,” he explained. He believes that when partners make an effort with their appearance, it naturally deepens emotional bonds and helps maintain relationships. Still, he warned against focusing solely on looks in marriage, urging couples to value character above physical appearance. “In marriage, don’t focus on the physical. Pay attention to the heart,” he advised, emphasising that “beauty fades over time, but love and a good heart last.” He summed up his perspective with the phrase “use heart to marriage,” highlighting that emotional connection is crucial for long-term relationship stability.
Regarding intimacy, he described it as a vital part of marriage, pointing out that dissatisfaction in that area often leads to significant conflict between couples. Nana Kwaku Bonsam concluded that a strong marriage requires effort across emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions—stressing that self-care, good character, and intimacy are essential foundations for lasting relationships
Source: Gifty Nsumba