If you’ve ever had a fight with your partner that seemed to come out of nowhere, it likely didn’t. Many conflicts stem from recurring issues that have grown into larger problems. Often, things remain unsaid until they finally erupt into a fight. The challenging part is that there can be subtle ways of upsetting your partner without even realizing it.
Both partners need to be aware of potential triggers they might unintentionally cause and should address concerns as they arise. While it’s easy to overlook small issues, they often turn out to be the biggest stressors in a relationship. Below are some subtle signs of a parasitic partner who may be sabotaging the relationship.
1. They don’t give their full attention
When their partner is speaking, they might be only half-listening, checking their email on their phone, or glancing at the TV screen behind them. Even if they don’t intend to be rude, this behavior suggests that whatever else they’re doing is more important than what their partner has to say. It’s important to be considerate and give them your full attention. Doing so can help prevent future disagreements and misunderstandings.
2. They won’t help until they’re asked
Just because someone’s partner doesn’t explicitly ask for help doesn’t mean they wouldn’t appreciate the offer. By remaining on the sidelines, they may be inadvertently suggesting that they don’t care. Instead of making favors feel like a burden, it’s better to take the initiative and offer assistance before being asked. By the time a request is made, it may be too late. A study from 2023 highlighted that, while it can be challenging, asking for help from a partner is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It nurtures trust, intimacy, and mutual support.
3. They don’t try to see the importance of things that don’t interest them
Have you ever found yourself in a fight that started with “What’s the big deal?!” The issue at hand might not seem significant, but often it’s the unwillingness of one partner to understand the other’s perspective that triggers the argument. Even something as trivial as your significant other asking which outfit to wear for dinner deserves your thoughtful opinion instead of an eye roll. They care about your input, so it’s important to engage with them. Instead of creating unnecessary tension, try to be supportive, even if the topic isn’t something you fully understand. That’s what real love looks like.
4. They don’t always come through
A good partner can be characterized in several ways, but reliability is one of the most important traits. Being reliable not only fosters trust between partners, but it is also generally a good quality to have. Even small commitments, like honoring a dinner reservation, matter. Each time a partner fails to follow through, they demonstrate that they are not dependable, which is not a desirable quality. Unreliable behavior can create emotional distance, as partners may hesitate to depend on each other or share their vulnerabilities.
