We all are selfish to an extent but then there are some people who are just too much into themselves and tend to disregard the other. They can even make you feel useless! Some use you when they have issues but when you need them they are not around. You are made to feel insufficient and invisible at times.
To deal with selfish human beings and to put them in their right place, here are a few tips that may be useful. No matter how the selfish person treats you, it does not mean that you become the same. Be who you are, do what you want, prioritise yourself too. Remember why you are still with this person but retain your good qualities. Don’t fall down to their level.
Be blunt with them!
Sometimes, you have to tell the other person that they are being selfish. But you must do it tactfully without being rude. Just remind the person that the world does not revolve around him or her.
Don’t give that attention
Selfish people crave attention and this is exactly what you must not give sometimes. If they act like a baby, let them. Give your two cents and leave. In case you are the one on the receiving end of a situation and they come up to you and show fake sadness, just say “ well such is life, it’s okay”. ‘You will immediately cut them off from the attention they thought you would give to their advice.
Focus on your interests
Selfish people think that only their day, opinion, likes and dislikes matter. So their conversations are also like that. If you have been taking it for long then it is time to snap. But, do it smartly. If they begin talking about something, you too change the topic and begin with your own topic. Keep coming back to your own interest which may make them understand that you too are there in the picture.
Don’t give in to favours
The person has been asking you for a lot of favours where you end up pulling many strings and eventually get nothing, not even appreciation for them. Remember that any relationship is two-way traffic. So if you are not getting anything in return then stop doing them any kind of favours. You too make excuses. Don’t defend yourself too often and do not be apologetic. Sometimes just putting your foot down is also helpful sometimes.
