An Emotional intelligence expert, James Kwesi Addison, is urging families to place the well-being and development of children at the center when navigating the outcomes of DNA tests. Appearing on Atinka TV’s Ghana Nie – Lifestyle Segment hosted by Ama Gyenfa Ofosu-Darkwa and Ekow Budu Sam, Mr. Addison emphasised that while DNA results can be deeply unsettling, the child must remain the primary focus in resolving disputes. He explained that grief in such cases extends beyond death, encompassing the loss of trust and expectations within relationships.
According to him, scientific tools like DNA testing are uncovering hidden truths, often triggering emotional turmoil for both men and women. He noted that many approach DNA testing with fear, with some men even avoiding it due to anxiety over possible outcomes.
Mr. Addison observed that managing the aftermath of DNA results can be challenging. Even when paternity is confirmed, men may struggle with lingering trust issues, while adverse results demand honesty, remorse, and accountability—particularly from the woman—to rebuild trust. He advised individuals to mentally prepare for any outcome before undergoing a DNA test, stressing that it should be approached with the same seriousness as an HIV test.
He further cautioned against making DNA results public, describing it as a common mistake that can worsen emotional harm. Instead, he recommended opening results in a calm and controlled environment, preferably in the presence of a trained counsellor. Mr. Addison also advised against relying solely on pastors for guidance, noting that they are not professional counsellors and may unintentionally escalate tensions.
He concluded that DNA outcomes are not the end of life but must be handled with emotional intelligence, discretion, and a strong focus on the child’s future.
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