Many things can go wrong on the first date. You can stutter, look too nervous or simply say all the wrong things that can altogether be a huge turn-off for your partner. Surprisingly, most people just can’t understand how their actions can turn a first date into a nightmare. In a way, dating is much like a game. We all want to win the ultimate prize. For the ladies, that’s usually Prince Charming. Unfortunately, the dating game doesn’t always end the way we’d like it to. Sometimes it’s because there’s simply no spark, values don’t mesh, or there’s no attraction. Other times, we do things to sabotage the relationship right from the very beginning.
Do not ill-treat waiters, drivers or other staff
This is one of the foremost things that people notice on the first date. The way you treat the staff at the restaurant or cafe, tells a lot about how your treat people generally. And if you’re rude to them, it instantly puts you in a bad light.
Checking your phone
Constantly checking your phone on the first date can be super annoying for your date. It is rude and disrespectful. It gives your date the impression that you’re not interested in spending time with them or investing in the date. You may also be a very busy and successful businessman, but you can forget it for about 2-3 hours. Mute or switch off your mobile, or even better, leave it at home! Interrupting continuously your conversation to check in on Facebook or answer a business phone call, is ridiculous. The day has 24 whole hours, dedicate some to your date. Hey, it’s your first date remember?
Being self-obsessed
Don’t appear too self-obsessed on the first date. Ask your date about their life, work, friends etc. Blabbering about only yourself will make your date lose interest in you quickly. And on top of all this, don’t you dare mention your ex.
Talking about your ex is a big turnoff for a lot of people. Oftentimes, it’s a sign that you’re not completely over your ex and your current date is merely a rebound. “Talking about an ex-love forces your date to wonder if you’re ready for someone new” . “If you catch yourself beginning sentences with ‘I used to date someone who…’ or ‘Oh yeah, my ex and I…,’ you are setting yourself up for failure.”
Paying the bill
Don’t sit tight and let your date pay the bill on the date. It’s the 21st century where people either take turns paying the bill or splitting it. It’s an instant turn off to see your date sit idle or not even make the effort to grab their wallet when the bill comes through.
Giving advice
Don’t give unsolicited life advice to your date. They came to have a fun outing with you; they aren’t there for you to give them advice. This can kill the mood as nobody wants to hear how they could make the best out of their underrated career.
Turning up late
Very very important. Imagine yourself waiting out in the cold and rain for your date to come. I’m sure you won’t like it. So don’t be late on your first date or on all of your dates. You have to be on time no matter what. It’s a really serious mistake and a bad sign for the future. Being late makes your date to obviously think that she’s just another girl or he’s just another guy. Are you taking your date seriously? There are no excuses for that one!
