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The timing of intimacy can have a significant impact on both our physical and emotional well-being in human relationships. Although sex is commonly associated with pleasure, closeness, and connection, there are certain moments and situations where engaging in it may not be the best idea. It is important to understand these situations and recognize their significance in maintaining healthy boundaries, communication, and respect within relationships. Part of having a healthy sex life is knowing when not to have sex, be it for your mental or physical health, or that of your partner. We spoke to some experts on sex and sexual health about the times you should abstain from having sex for emotional or physical reasons.

  • If you’re healing from a UTI, hold off.

When you’re at the height of a UTI, you’re probably too uncomfortable to be in the mood. But even once you start to feel better, you probably shouldn’t jump back in the sack right away. Wait until you’ve finished your antibiotics and have been symptom-free for at least two weeks. Otherwise, you run the risk of worsening the UTI before it’s fully gone, as well as causing yourself pain or discomfort. When seeking treatment for a UTI or any other kind of infection or ailment down there, talk to your doctor about when you can safely resume your normal sexual activities.

  • Having sex to avoid conflict 

“Having sex to keep the peace, to be agreeable in order to please a partner or to prevent an argument is the worst kind of idea,”. If your partner is pressuring you to have sex, or you have reason to fear there may be consequences, emotional or otherwise if you refuse sex – that’s coercion. “Someone badgering you to have sex until they wear you down into a ‘yes’ is a sure recipe for disaster,”. Consent needs to be enthusiastic and freely given. Along the same lines, you should never be the one pressuring someone into sex. If your partner seems resistant or just not into it, the solution is not to try to convince them. Pay attention to their comfort level.

  • Coercion does not mean healthy sex

Even outside of situations of pressure or coercion, you should ultimately never have sex unless you want to. “At the core, I believe you shouldn’t have sex unless you feel excited and present for the sexual interaction,” Franco said. There is never a reason you “have to” engage in any kind of sex act if you don’t really want to – even if you’ve had sex with this partner before, or because you’ve already performed a different sex act on them or anyone else. Not even if they claim to have blue balls. “Don’t ever have sex because someone else thinks you should. Have sex because you’re attracted to the person, it’s consensual and seems like fun…and of course…always use protection!”.

  • When Under the Influence

While it might seem tempting to indulge in intimacy during moments of heightened euphoria or relaxation induced by substances like alcohol or drugs, it’s essential to recognize the potential risks. Impaired judgment can lead to decisions that individuals may regret later, and consent may become blurred or absent. Moreover, substance use can impact physical performance and increase the likelihood of engaging in unsafe practices, risking both partners’ health.

  • During Emotional Turmoil

Intimacy can be a way to seek comfort or distraction during times of emotional distress, but it’s crucial to approach this with caution. Engaging in sex as a means of coping with unresolved emotions or relationship issues may lead to further complications. Unaddressed feelings may resurface post-coitus, potentially intensifying existing conflicts or causing emotional detachment. Communication and addressing underlying issues outside the bedroom are essential for fostering genuine emotional intimacy.

  • When Feeling Pressured

Consent is the cornerstone of healthy sexual interactions. Any form of coercion or pressure to engage in sex, whether explicit or implicit, undermines the foundation of mutual respect and trust in a relationship. Feeling obligated or coerced into sex can lead to feelings of resentment, guilt, or trauma for the individual, and it can strain the dynamics of the relationship. Both partners should feel free to express their desires and boundaries without fear of judgment or repercussion.

  • In Unsafe Environments

The physical environment can significantly impact the experience of intimacy. Engaging in sex in places that are uncomfortable, unsanitary, or potentially unsafe can detract from the enjoyment and pose risks to both partners’ health and safety. Factors such as lack of privacy, risk of interruption, or exposure to environmental hazards can contribute to feelings of discomfort or anxiety, inhibiting the ability to fully engage at the moment.

  • When Physical Health is Compromised

It’s essential to prioritize physical health and well-being when considering intimacy. Engaging in sex while one or both partners are unwell or experiencing physical discomfort can be not only uncomfortable but also potentially harmful. Conditions such as infections, injuries, or fatigue can diminish pleasure, increase the risk of complications, and hinder recovery. It’s crucial to communicate openly about any physical limitations or concerns and prioritize self-care and rest when needed.

  • During Significant Life Transitions

Major life events such as job changes, relocation, bereavement, or family crises can significantly impact individuals’ emotional and mental states. Engaging in sex during such times may feel inappropriate or incongruent with one’s emotional state. It’s essential to acknowledge and respect one’s need for emotional support, space, or time to process these transitions without pressure or expectation.


In conclusion, while sex can be a fulfilling and enriching aspect of relationships, there are times when it’s best to abstain or approach it with caution. Recognizing and respecting individual boundaries, consent, and emotional well-being are paramount in fostering healthy and mutually satisfying intimacy. Effective communication, empathy, and understanding between partners are essential for navigating the complexities of timing in sexual interactions, ultimately strengthening the foundation of trust and connection within relationships.


Benjamin Mensah

By Benjamin Mensah

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