Communication does not comprise structured sentences, words, or syllables. There are deeper connotations to the term. The above-mentioned verbal communication symbols and structures are half of the story. There is non-verbal communication; it comprises various body language communication gestures.
Here we will explore the importance of non-verbal body language communication. We aim to find ways to maximise the efficiency of body language communication. In general terms, the vernacular of the human body is the non-verbal part of communication. It contains the speaker’s genuine emotions and intentions. The moderate facial look turns into a good smile with the mouth rising and the eyes creased.
A slight change in the angle of the head is indicative of a keen listener. And, sitting or standing shows interest. These two are positive body language gestures of attraction. But, a stance with arms crossed or continuous tapping of the feet are examples of negative body language communication. As the recipient learns to comprehend the meaning of these signs, communication becomes more effective.
This also lets the participants know others’ reactions to their speech and action. Mastering the vernacular of the body enables us to reform ourselves. This helps us to project more positivity and become more acceptable and engaging. On a usual count, only seven per cent of the whole idea gets conveyed through verbal communication. The rest of the ninety-three per cent happens via body language communication gestures.
This also shows the pivotal role body language communication has in communicating emotions. Thus making body language communication an integral part of verbal communication. This point helps us understand why it is difficult to communicate emotions in a phone call. This is the same reason why salesmen prefer face-to-face conversations. You will find more depth in normal verbal conversations as you get to know body language communications. Some of the gestured signals which ought to be emphasised are discussed below.
Awkward conversations destroy the gist of the process of communication and make it more uncomfortable. Anxiety, pressure, or frustration may make dealing with rude people difficult. Even if we try to bury these deep feelings, they surface and convey through our body language communication gestures. Sometimes, not just our words, but our gestures, and body language too can create a misunderstanding, leaving a bad impression on the other person. Bookmark this page and make mental notes of some of the common gestures that you didn’t even realise were leaving a bad impression.
Touching your face while talking
If you touch your face while talking to someone, you are leaving a bad impression on the other person. It is a very low-power gesture and you project nervousness, lack of confidence as well as control. This gesture turns people off. It also says that you lack the presence of mind in the conversation. You are judged as a clueless or unprepared person at that moment.
Intertwined fingers
Many people have this habit of clasping their hands or fingers which is not a very good gesture. You may think that you look like someone with power or you are an authoritative figure but it is actually the opposite. It says that you are nervous, hesitant and worried and even lack confidence. If you are presenting something and your fingers are in that gesture then you may be perceived to lack preparation.
Crossing your arm behind your back
This gesture may seem like you are not welcoming any further communication from the other person or are very cocky and even authoritative. It shows that you do not trust the other person. According to psychologists, this gesture is a way of telling people that you are “unsure” of them. The more firm the grip is, the more it looks like you are frustrated or angry or even nervous around the person.
Standing cross-legged
If it is not for holding your gallbladder, then this gesture is very negative. It strips you of your confidence and your words are not very effective. This posture makes you look under confident or anxious. This gesture is defensive especially when you cross your legs in the middle of a conversation. It looks like you have a very closed-off attitude and probably do not care about the other’s opinion.
Lack of response
When you are a part of a conversation, you must make eye contact and show that you are listening. If you do not respond, do not make eye contact, don’t even nod or smile, you are showing that you are not interested. It is important to give cues!
