A sense of insecurity developed because of a flirty boyfriend is a significant loss of trust. It is disheartening and sometimes irritating. In this kind of scenario, you might feel like a fool but you just need to give this bitter experience a little time, and maybe when you give this a thought and time to understand his real intentions, things would fall in place. You would need a lot more patience to deal with this.
Don’t let your hopes shatter when you see him flirting with some other girl in your presence, stay calm and stay there. A cheeky boyfriend does not necessarily cheat on you. Save yourself from getting into the hot flow of anger and insecurities as thinking calmly and handling things maturely would prevent you from walking towards the ‘Exit door’ of your relationship. Wisely handling this kind of situation will eventually pave the way for peace and happiness in your relationship. Stay with two of your best buddies during tough times like these, patience, and some good advice.
However, being flirty doesn’t always mean that your partner feels any physical attraction for others, or has a sexual interest in them. Sometimes it’s just harmless fun that they feel like indulging in. Below are some suggestions that can help you in dealing with a flirty boyfriend.
Do not rush!
Different people flirt for different reasons. So, before assuming that he is a cheater and has bad intentions for you, make sure that you don’t rush and end up taking a harsh decision. The reasons might surprise you, Some might flirt simply to boost their confidence, some might prefer doing it just for fun, and few might do this because they are naturally flirty personalities and do so without having an interest in the person. Try and see if he flirts only with hot girls, or if he just simply gets on very well with anyone he meets and speaks with. Keep calm and observe!
Be calm and self-composed
The very first thing you should do after knowing his intention is to stay poised. The naturally flirtatious one won’t harm you but irritate you. Now is the time to make him realize his habit and find a middle path. We know it’s tough to remain graceful but that’s the only wise thing to do here. Find the right time, cool your nerves, and have a little casual chat, not too serious!
Mind your tone
In the heat of the moment, you might miss out on minding your tone while talking about a few over-sensitive matters. If you talk to him in an accusing and offending tone, you would never achieve what you want. By raising your voice, he would simply get defensive and the spark between you two will start vanishing. If you wish to get things done, talk but don’t fall prey to an unnecessary argument. It will lead you nowhere. Maturely communicate with him, ensure that you control your anger, and talk some sense.
Don’t act naive
Trust is the backbone, but too much trust is also not good. Find the right balance between trust and awareness. You must ensure to be trustworthy but yet conscious of what is really going on in your life. The right attitude towards your love life and partner will ensure a happy and joyful relationship.
Trust is essential
It is! Things won’t take a U-turn all of a sudden and change dramatically. Do not put much pressure on him, give him sufficient time to show you his efforts, and try to focus on the positivity that he is pouring in for the betterment of the relationship. Give him a sign of your trust, he will feel happy and will further make efforts to make you feel relieved.
Communication is key
Communicating in the right manner plays a very important role in taking care of your relationship. Do not show the ugly side of your relationship by indulging in unnecessary arguments when in public and instead, find a moment to talk when it’s just the two of you. Create a dialogue and express what you have noticed so far and how it feels to be in your position. The golden rule is, do not accuse him, ask him the reason behind it and make sure you make him comfortable to open up with you. Try to end the conversation on a good note where you don’t end up hurting him and request him to control his behavior for the sake of your relationship.