Beauty and character both play important roles in a relationship, but they serve different functions and have different levels of significance for different people. I’ve seen unattractive and even fugly people in happy long-term relationships.
Beauty: Physical attractiveness can initially draw people to one another and create a spark of interest. However, it’s important to remember that beauty is subjective, and what one person finds beautiful may differ from what someone else finds attractive. Physical attraction can be a component of romantic and sexual attraction, but it alone is usually not enough to sustain a long-term, healthy relationship.
Character: Character refers to a person’s values, personality, integrity, and moral qualities. It encompasses traits like honesty, kindness, empathy, loyalty, and communication skills. A strong character is crucial for maintaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Good character traits build trust, mutual respect, and emotional intimacy.
In a successful relationship, both physical attraction (beauty) and a strong character are important. However, as the relationship develops, the character often becomes increasingly significant. Physical beauty may fade with time, but a person’s character is more enduring and contributes significantly to the quality of the relationship.
Ultimately, what keeps a relationship is a deep emotional connection, trust, effective communication, shared values, mutual respect, and a strong character. While beauty may initially attract two people to each other, it’s the compatibility of their characters and their ability to nurture a loving and supportive partnership that sustains the relationship over the long term.
There is a lot of truth in the story, “Beauty and the Beast”: if you spend a very long amount of time with someone, even if that person is ugly as hell (like a beast), you will eventually see the beauty in that person, and grow attracted to him/her.
Unless one is a narcissist who only wants to parade his/her trophy girlfriend/boyfriend, people are more likely to want a long-term relationship with a less attractive person with a good personality, than an attractive person with a bad personality.
Realistically, as the years go by, everyone will age and look unattractive anyway. So what will keep the relationship going is the personality.
Also, in a relationship, your partner will pervade many aspects of your life. Looks don’t matter here. What matters is the partner’s personality and character. Someone with an awful personality will negatively affect you 24/7. So don’t be superficial and be attracted to only good looks. Think of the long-term.
A marriage is supposed to be a friendship taken to a whole new level. A good personality helps with that. Lastly, don’t just focus on your potential partner. It would be best if you also worked to improve yourself so that you also have a good personality. Otherwise, you’ll benefit from the relationship while your partner suffers. That wouldn’t be fair.
If looks don’t matter. What does? What really matters in developing a good and healthy relationship is the quality of communication and the shared memories and experiences. If you have the soft skills to do this, you will definitely be more attractive to other people. So learn to be patient and kind, learn to be a good listener and a good communicator.